I remember my grandfather today.
I know, it’s lame and awful to celebrate the birthday of a dead man. The first year after he died, we tried to do so, but it was so painful and awful, my family decided right then and there to not do that any more.
And yet, nowadays, when Feb. 11th comes around, I find myself thinking of him fondly, with the kind of pain-free memory that one should have for someone very special in your life.
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Also, not to overlook anyone, Happy Anniversary to and . You two are not so much lucky to have one another, because that would imply you had little to do with it. But you are one of the more successful, happy couples I know, and I am proud to call you my friends.
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I honor my grandmother’s birthday on December 6th, even though she passed away in 2000. It’s honestly just a moment of thought (or several moments of thought), but it’s deep thought and usually comes with a dry tear or two. It’s worth the momentary pain to remember such a valued loved one. Perhaps valued is the wrong word, but you get my gist.
No it’s not lame or awful it’s a thing of love. I celebrate my daughters birthday to some extent. I will on my fathers as well come the 26th of feb. For my father it is just something I want to do but has no specific cultural thing I’m aware of. For my daughter I want to do it but it’s also cultural. In chinese culture doing bi san happens on major holidays, the persons birthday and their death day. Death is a celebration for them of moving from one plane to a higher one. My daughter didn’t totally believe in that but as she was part asian I do it out of respect for her and part of her cultural heritage.
Today is my daddy’s birthday.
I always remember my grandmother’s birthday, but it’s easier now, since my nephew was born on her birthday…
Thanks, I too remember him today. Death is so unfair.It certainly does make a reason why people believe in a diety- it eliminates the finality of death.
Love,
Mom
not lame and awful at all, my grandfather died two weeks before his birthday and my great grandmother died midway between the two so January has been a month of remembrance in my family for some time.
On behalf of The Pirate and myself, we would like to thank you sincerely. Our anniversary was fabulous in the very low-key way we both love.
And it’s never morbid or wrong to celebrate the people you love who aren’t here anymore. I think it’s crucial to people’s well-being to keep important people in their lives.
My dad says “Happy Birthday, Mom” every forth of July and we all remember her. I don’t think it’s a lame or awful thing to do, just a way of remembering a family member and/or friend.
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